Perfect Imperfections May 24 2017, 0 Comments
Most of us spend our days trying to keep all the balls juggling in the air. We strive for what society tells us is perfection...our looks, our family, our home, our work. Most days we do really good job of faking it. Then one thing happens and the house of cards come crashing down.
In today's world it is easy to get pulled into to the quest for perfection. Our heads are filled with messages like “Never good enough” and “What will people think?” Our car isnt new enough, our home not big enough, our bodies not model perfect. It comes at us from all angles. Striving for perfection is exhausting...yet we keep striving , even when in our heads and heart we know there is no such thing as perfect anything. Yet we strive for it because we think if we are perfect enough we can avoid the pain, the judgement, the blame that might come our way.
But maybe there is a different way....maybe instead of striving for perfection, we should start finding the beauty in our imperfect life. Maybe we should take time to be grateful for the blessings in front of us. When we are striving to be perfect we are missing the joy of the moments, the moments that in the end, make our life.
Over the years, again and again, I have been reminded that perfection is not always what we need in our lives. What we need most is to find things every single day to be thankful and grateful for. We need to embrace our blessings before us.
In the last few years the beauty of imperfection has become even more clear for me and for my family.
For several years we had been wanting a homestead, a place to retire. We never could find the "perfect land" in a price we could afford. It wasn't happening. Then we changed our expectations. Three years ago we went with good enough. We found 10 acres in the mountains of western NC. It was on a hill side with a smaller yard and garden space than we envisioned. But it had 2 natural springs, bordered national forest, was across the road from a beautiful waterfall and the price was half the property value. We bought it the same day we looked at the property. Yes we have improvements to make but it feels right. It feels like home. No it is not the perfect homesteading land but it is more than "good enough". More importantly it feels like home. There is a peace in the imperfections..
After moving into what we thought would be our retirement home we were hit with a family crisis. The next thing you know we are raising two young grandson. We are dealing with trauma and stress. Not the perfect retirement I imagined. We had to readjust our thinking and our lifestyle overnight. Together the 4 of us have held tight to each other. We have overcome In this unconventional family we found blessings and love overflowing in the imperfections
Now our days are full We are homesteading, slowly building and improving our land. We are parenting again at the ages of 56 and 66, finding joy in 2 young boys running around the homestead.We are are moving towards a simple life, being grateful everyday for our blessings in all forms.
No our life is not perfect, I stopped trying to make it all perfect. I cant keep all the balls in the air all the time. And that is ok because our life is beautiful in its imperfection.